WHY AM I AFRAID TO OPEN UP MY DOOR?

A True and Happy Relationship (Friendships or exclusive Relationships) values the gift of Openness. Smashing up all your walls, be open... and when they open up about themselves, listen and accept the truth about them, the true-ness of that person.

Whazzup everybody! Can you open up? Opening up is not easy. A man wouldn't let his friends know that he is the one doing the laundry work, household chores, and even he's earning lesser than his wife. A woman wouldn't let her parents know about her pains and sufferings. She wouldn't share her deepest scars to anyone. These are few examples that the world thinks can damage one's dignity.

People can open up their doors to someone but not fully open... Why?

1. AFRAID OF LETTING OTHERS KNOW HOW WEAK WE ARE!

Because inside that door, we are so vulnerable, so susceptible to pain. Inside that door we are so weak.

Because of that vulnerability and weakness, if we are attacked by the person whom we open up our doors it hurts a lot than those whom we do not.
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2. NO ONE WILL LISTEN TO US

Listening to someone is one of the most difficult thing to do in life. Listening is not just simply listening to the words uttered by your lover, partner, or friends when they open up. Listening is journeying with that person's downfall in which you are there to lend your hand to him/her. It's not easy that's why No one loves to Listen.

We do not open up because we know no one loves to listen and if they do, sometimes we are misinterpreted and misunderstood. Some gets angry with us as if we are looking for some arguments... Mostly, they don't and won't understand, we are just opening up of what's inside us because the latter defines a part of who we are.

3. IT HURTS...

Yup it hurts... opening up or telling the people whom we love is difficult. It takes a lot of courage to show them who we really are and the what and how as well the why of our emotions because simply we know that after showing or letting them know who we are, they might not accept us. Lucky for those who are accepted for being who they are.

Well, it is our decision what kind of life we aspire if it will be a life having a lover, a partner, or many friends yet we do not Truly know them as well as they do not Truly know who we are.

... or a life with True lover or True few Friends whom we know?

According to Leo Buscaglia, from his book Loving Each Other, "Each one of us is created as angels with one wing and need to hug each other in order to fly."

Can we "HUG" if there's a wall that separates us from each other?